If it’s your first time visiting a personal development blog, you might be wondering what is exactly deliberate creation. Deliberate creation happens when you decide what you really want, ask for it, focus on it and let the universe do the rest.
Deliberate creation really happens when you have done all you needed to do – asking, visualizing and focusing and then let go.
Frankly, it’s that letting go part that is the hardest. Not the hardest to do literally, but the hardest to trust, because this happens when you totally surrender with trust that what you have been so fervently asking for is coming your way.
In this post we are going to discuss why is it so hard to trust and let go? What you should expect once you let go? And how you can learn to trust if you have a hard time with this part right now.
Why is it so Hard to Let Go?
Let’s be honest, letting go of anything is never easy and I dare anyone saying that it is. The reason why letting go is not easy has a lot to do with fear. While you might be aware of the fears that lure in your life and work on it, it will still not be easy to let go and surrender to trust.
This is why, even though we are doing everything we can to try to bring our dreams into our life, letting go is still tough. What if I’m wrong? What if it doesn’t work? What if… what if…
We tend to trust in what we see, but when it’s time to let go, well, most times we can’t see anything yet. The problem is that we will see it only after we have let go. Need an example of what I mean?
The first time I set foot into a real public pool I was around four years old and my mother being the good mother hen that she’d always been put that inflated ring around my waist so I would drown. After few minutes of trying to swim with that thing around me, I started to get really annoyed and wanted it off. My mother first tried to convince me to keep it on, but I’ve always been very stubborn early in life and I convinced her to let me take this buoy off me.
Then, I just started swimming toward the deep end like I’ve been a fish in another life. If I had not let go of that buoy and if my mother had not let go of her apprehension we would have never known that I could swim that day. In order to know that, we had to let go and trust. I had to trust my feelings that I could swim better without this thing around me, and my mother had to trust the feelings of a stubborn four year old. Then, and only then we both found out that, indeed, I could swim.
This is just a small example of course, but you can apply the same type of trust with whatever it is that you want to do in life. Just trust that you can do it… plunge in and swim and the water (the universe) will hold and support you.
What Should you Expect when you Let Go?
When you let go you should expect what some personal development mentors call the “waves of discomfort”. This is probably the most uncomfortable time and even a bit scary sometimes. This is a time where you might feel some opposition and challenges.
In times like this you may feel that the universe (God) has totally abandoned you and that things are not doing better but worse. However, this is perfectly normal. Almost every time that you are letting go for a big turn for success in life, you are going to go through a chain of events that will be a bit on the negative side.
The best thing to do in such case is the same as you would if you were riding a boat in a storm. Buckle up and do whatever you can to stay afloat and wait until the storm has past.
The key here is not to turn on yourself with negative thinking. Do your very best to stay positive. Ride the storm and wait for the sun shine to show at the horizon. Because as surely as the physical storm will pass, your own personal life storm will pass too. And like there is always sunshine after a storm, there will be sunshine at the end of the tunnel for you as well. It must, it’s the law of the universe.
Ok, this is all Good and Well, but how can you Trust if you Have a Hard Time with the Trusting Part?
When I’m asked this question, I answer with few other questions. Do you really like your life right now? Are you one hundred percent satisfy with it? Is there anything you’d like to change? If your answer is no, then what do you have to lose? You have ONLY two choices; you can stay where you are or you can change it.
I was not one hundred percent sure that I could float without that buoy, but I sure wasn’t happy with it and I couldn’t really swim either, so my best option was to try and see what would happen without it. I wasn’t happy with it, so I had nothing to lose but see if I would be happier without it. I was!
Let Your Dissatisfaction be your Trusting Guide
When you are dissatisfied with things, that’s your superconcious telling you that there is something better for you out there. However, that something will rarely just land on your laps. You are going to have to reach for it by following the steps mentioned on this post, and then you are going to have to LET GO to let the deliberate creation process do its work.
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