What are the Common Fears?

Fear has a purpose, and the good type of fear is valuable to us because it serves us as a protective shield.  Healthy fear prevent us from harming ourselves.  However, uncontrolled fears, the one that are NOT serving us, but rather handicapping us, will prevent us from taking actions that would help us move forward to reach our goals. Fear can be so sneaky that it can also disguise itself in such ways that you won’t recognize it as fear.

So, what are the negative fears that don’t serve you? There are many, but here are the principal ones.

• Fear of failure
• Fear of success
• Fear of being criticized
• Fear of being alone
• Fear of getting old
• Fear of getting sick
• Fear of losing someone
• Fear of death

Just about any human being on this planet is suffering from one or more of such fears. In this article we are going to analyze two fears that are preventing you from succeeding which are fear of failure and fear of success.

None of us were born with the negative fears that we carry around. Those fears were learned. The good side of this is that what has been learned can be unlearned, so let’s see how.

When did our Fears come into Play?

If you’d watch babies between the 6 months to two years of age, there are not many things they are fearful of. As the baby starts walking, he courageously tries to stand on his two little legs and takes his first steps. Sure enough he falls to the ground and gets back up right away and tries walking again.

You, on the other hand, you are starting to get nervous and you want to help your baby by holding him or placing him in a baby walker. However, your baby wants none of that; he is crying and screaming to be let go to try on his own again. Have you ever wonder why is that? It’s because your baby has no fear. Only you do!

Why do Babies have no Fear?

Most of our fears, the ones that are not the natural protective fears, are learned as we grow up. Before your baby learns any of that stuff he has no reason to fear the natural process of learning how to walk; even if it’s going to cost him a few falls. Even if the baby scratches his knees or hands a bit in the process, he will still get up and try again as soon as he’s able to.

If babies had the same fears we carry around every day, they would never learn how to walk, would they?

The fear of falling, the fear of hurting ourselves, the fear of breaking a leg, the fear of scratching our skin, etc… would totally prevent us from learning how to walk. Therefore, we would put it off, somehow. We call this procrastination.

Where do our Fears Come From?

As I mentioned above, most of our fears are learned. You were not born with most of the fears that you carry around today. Our fears a learned from our parents, from the society we grew up and live in and other external factors.

Since most of those fears were embedded in our mind before we reached the age of 7 years old, no wonder that they are not only hard to extract from our mind, but in many cases even hard to even recognize at all. This is why the best and easiest way to find out what type of fears are affecting you is by watching your actions or the lack of it in regards to any specific situation.

How to Recognize the Fear of Failure and the Fear of Success

Two of the most prevalent fears that are responsible for people not succeeding in life are fear of failure and fear of success.

If people would only recognize that they have fear of failure or fear of success, they would be able to take the necessary steps to overcome them. However, when you are not even aware that you have such fears there is nothing you can or will do – it’s like having a disease but not having been diagnosed with it.

The first step to heal from anything is first knowing that you are being affected by it. So, how can you recognize that you have fear of failure or fear of success?

Fear of Failure

I personally know two very talented people for whom fear of failure was key in preventing them from achieving the success they would have had achieved if such fear had not been in the picture.

Fears of failure will show its ugly head by preventing you to start a new business, quite that job that you hate, or take the next step you need to take to increase your income. What the fear of failure does is bring to mind ONLY the possibly negative outcomes that may come up. You are like that baby that would never try to walk because all he sees are the falls and scratches.

Fear of Success

The fear of success is very similar to the fear of failure, except that it can be even sneakier. People who have fear of success are afraid to make people around them jealous and lose their friendships.  They are afraid of being criticized.  They are afraid of the unknown, and when you have never been successful, success is “unknown” to you.

The fear of success translates in having all kind of negative ideas about LOSS. Such loss, of course is totally imagined and made up in our own mind; it’s produced by the unhealthy fear of success.

How to Get Rid of Both Fear of Failure and Fear of Success

Do you remember when you used to tell your mother that there was a monster under your bed? You mother (or father) may have kneeled down and look under the bed and tell you, no, honey; there is nothing under the bed!

Basically, this is what you need to do with your fear of failure and fear of success once you have recognized that you have one or maybe even both of them.

Look in there and see if that monster is really there or if you are just making it up! Remember that whatever negative scenario you are imagining in your head is just that – a made up story that doesn’t even exist – A pure product of your imagination.

We are masters at imagine the worse. We do that all the time. The best remedy to stop creating bad images due to our fear of failure and success is called “decision”. Just make the decision that you won’t believe any of the negative stories that come up to you mind. Then, make the conscious “decision” to see ONLY positive outcome.

This may take some getting used to and practice, but if you persist, overtime, you will be able to eliminate your fear of failure and fear of success for good.

What are you thoughts on the subject?  Please, express yourself below in the comment section!

Have you ever cried, screamed or laughed watching a movie?  Chances are that you have.  Now what in the world makes us have true emotions such as crying or laughing while watching or even reading something that is not real?  Well, the first reason why you cry or laugh watching a movie or reading a story is that “you believe it”.

Now, wait a minute!  You are telling me that when I watch a movie that’s not “real” or read a story totally made up I “believe it”?  Yes, you do -if you didn’t you wouldn’t cry or laugh, would you?  But to be more specific here, you believe it subconsciously.

Your Subconscious Mind Believe Everything

There is no doubt that consciously you know that a movie or a book story is not real. It’s all made up.  The people you are seeing moving about on the screen are all actors speaking from a script.  Those characters in the book don’t even have a face or voice but the ones you give them in your own imagination.  So, no doubt, consciously, you know it’s all fake.  However, this is why it’s so interesting.  The forces that win here is not you conscious, is it? No, what wins here is your subconscious.  Because your subconscious mind believes everything.

This is why while you have fun watching other people scenarios, you should write your own scenario.  The scenario of your life, the way you would like it to be.  In this article I am going to give you a few pointers to help you write the perfect scenario of your life, so you could bring about the kind of life that you want to live.  It’s also called visualization with emotions in action.

Writing the Scenario of your Life

Writing what you want in the present tense is always a good idea.  Writing is the physical form of thinking.  If you are thinking about things you would love to do, be or to have, just write them down.  When you write them down they become more concrete, clearer and most of all more real to you.

A word of caution, though; this is not the kind of writing you want to share with anyone, this is between your blank page and you.  If you’d share this with anyone chances are that they might not understand what you are trying to accomplish and they might discourage you in some way with negative remarks, and it would be such same to let someone else prevent you from building your dreams.  Remember, “YOU are the master of your sole and the captain of your life”, no one else is.

What if you don’t Have any Idea About What you Really Want?

If you are short of ideas and can’t really tell what you really want, not sure about what scenario you’d like to write, take a blank sheet of paper and draw two columns.  On the left column write “want” and on the right column write “don’t want”.  By creating such list, you can use a process of elimination.  There might be more items on the “don’t want” column, but that’s fine.  Analyze your don’t want one by one and think of what you would want instead.  Once you found it, put it on the “want” column.  Once you are satisfied with your column of “wants” you can start writing your perfect story, the scenario of your life as you want it to be.

But, before you get there, you might start creating a want list that could look like this…

• Your perfect weight
• Your perfect occupation
• Your perfect partner
• Your perfect house
• Your perfect vacations
• Your perfect mindset
• Your perfect achievement
• Your perfect goal
• Your perfect day, etc…

Then make sure you write your scenario (story) using as much details as possible

• Write as though it’s happening now. Always use the present tense
• Describe everything in as much detail as possible
• What are you saying? What others are saying?
• Write about how you feel, what you are doing, etc…
• Describe the weather, describe the scenery, describe the place…

Remember that detail is key, the more details your story is the better it will work.  Once you’re done, read your story every day for thirty days in a row and see your life start changing.

• Read your story twice a day while visualizing everything
• Add some pictures to it to help you visualize
• Feel what you are seeing with all your mind and body
• Watch your own movie everyday and be moved by it, just like when you watch a movie on the screen.

What are you thoughts on the subject?  Please, express yourself below in the comment section!

If you have been introduced to the law of attraction, I am sure that you were told to have a “self talk” also called affirmations of positive statements that you should repeat every day a good number of times.

I know that back in the days when I was introduced to the law of attraction concept it’s what I was told to do.  Then, in all confidence I started with my positive “affirmations” and repeated them all through the day out loud, anytime I was alone.

The problem is that like a lot of people out there, it didn’t work for me.  Was I doing something wrong? Was I told a lie and that stuff just didn’t work?  Does it work only for some people?

Would you like to know the answer to those questions and more?  Then, keep reading.

Why Do Affirmations Just Don’t Always Work For Everyone?

The first time that I was instructed to use affirmations in order to change my life, my coach just forgot to add the most important detail that would have made all the difference to me, which was to – choose affirmations that could  believe.

You see, our mind and more specifically our subconscious mind is more complicated than that.  In order for any affirmation to work it needs to be believable to the subconscious mind.

The huge detail that some so called self development coaches will forget to tell you is that if you don’t believe the affirmations, subconsciously, you could repeat such affirmations until you’re blue in the face and it still wouldn’t work for you.

The reason why this is the case is that you are not “believing” what you are saying because your subconscious mind is saying – no way – and, therefore, the vibrations that you are sending out there, are not in alignment with the higher vibration frequency that would be in alignment with what your affirmations.

Sounds a bit complicated?  Here is a simple example that will help you understand fully what I mean.

Let’s say that you are making $25,000 a year right now, and in your affirmation you are saying I am a millionaire or even I am making $100,000 a year! Such statement is not believable to your subconscious mind.

Your subconscious mind holds all the beliefs that you have accumulated since you were a small child.  Now, let’s say that you have grown up in a family that never made even close to that kind of money and you haven’t ever made that kind of money has an adult either.  What do you think subconscious belief about money would be?

Your subconscious belief about money would be that you are always going to make just about what you have been making all your life, and that even includes before you were an adult and made your own money.

Let’s say that your parents were making up to $35,000 a year and you are making $30,000 a year, that’s what is deeply embedded in your subconscious mind.  Thinking that you can shift this with simple affirmations like “I’m making $100,000 a year” would be a long shot, because your subconscious mind is saying “that’s impossible”.

Because your subconscious mind is saying that’s impossible, you are not vibrating at the frequency that says $100,000 a year, You are vibrating at $30,000 a year.

Our vibrations is energy that attracts like.  Energy = vibrations = like- attraction.  In other words, the more you have, the higher your energy/vibrations, the more  you attract.  If this is still a little bit fuzzy for you, Melody Fletcher as a great eBook called Deliberate Receiving that can clarify all that for you.

Subconsciously, you don’t believe your affirmation, therefore, you are not vibrating at the energy level that you would need to in order to manifest what you want in your physical world.

This is why people who have watched the movie or read the book “The Secret” are saying that it’s not working.  It’s not that it’s not working, but it certainly is not working for them.  The reason why is because they are coming from a too far away place and have not understood the concept beneath attraction according the law, which is that the “belief” needs to be there first or be introduced little by little.

How to Introduce the Belief of Your Affirmations to Your Subconscious Mind

How did you come to be a little toddler to a grown adult?  Little by little, right?  You were not born one day measuring 36 inches and woke up 3 months later to be 6 foot tall!  The growth of your body, brain, organs, ears, nose, etc… happened little by little, gradually, over a period of 16 to 21 years.

That’s how the universe works.  The evolution of things happen gradually, so our body, brain and mind have time to get used to it and our subconscious mind has time to accept it as true and act accordingly.

It is the same thing with your affirmations; if you are making only $25,000 to $35,000 do not set your affirmation to $100,000 (just yet).  It’s just too much for subconscious mind to believe it.  You need to do it gradually, just like the way you grew up.  There were a lot of sizes you went through between 36 inches and 6 feet, right? 1 foot, 2 feet, 4 feet, you get the picture!  In the same manner there’s a lot of income ranges between $35,000 and $100,000 isn’t there?  What about a nice $50,000 to start with. That’s much better than $25,000 or even much better than $35,000, but that’s also much more “believable” for the subconscious of someone who makes only around $30,000.  Isn’t it?

When you grow progressively, your affirmations will work better and you will be able to bring your vibrations up in alignment with such affirmations much better as well.  At that time, and at that time only, you will be able to notice a shift in your life that will most likely going to bring you closer to that “believable” amount.  When that happens, you can move to a higher level.  Just make sure that you are at a level that your subconscious can believe in.  Little by little you will be reaching your $100,000 and above, but not before it’s too much for your subconscious mind to believe.

Conclusion

If you have tried to use positive affirmations before, but have not achieved any results with them, it’s most likely that you have set the bar too high.  Come down the ladder a little bit and start where it feels more comfortable for your subconscious mind to believe.

If you do, your affirmations along with the belief and the right vibrations, you will finally attract what you want.

How did those affirmations worked for you so far? Let me know in the comment area below!

What are you thoughts on the subject?  Please, express yourself below in the comment section!

The truth is that the average New Year resolution will last no longer than a couple of weeks and because of this the results that people are looking for will never be achieved.

Results, as we all know, are best achieved with the continuity of actions taken.  However, it’s such continuity that people have problems with.

So, how can you break the vicious circle of dropping good habits that will lead you to a more successful life?

I am sure that you have already heard that a habit can be picked up in just 21 days.  If you do something religiously for 21 days it will become a habit.  So, let’s use this principal to implement specific actions that will help you become more successful in your life and ultimately reach your goals and dreams.  If you discipline yourself for only 21 days, you should be able to keep it going for as long as it takes.

If you drop, don’t despair, though.  Just pick yourself up and keep going.

Five Law of Attraction Habits That you Can Use Everyday

There are five law of attraction habits that you can use on a daily basis to help you improve your financial, personal, professional and romantic life.

Let’s say that you will focus on each one for just 21 days, so your mind won’t feel overwhelmed.  Remember, that once you’ve held on for 21 days it will be much, much easier to keep your good habits going.  In some cases, it will even be hard to stop, even if you wanted too. Great, isn’t it?  So, let’s go…

1- Get Into the Habit of Watching your Thoughts

The main reason why a lot of people are leading crapy lives is because of this very important fact – they let their thoughts run lose without any control over them.

Imagine that you are at the commands of a boat and you let the boat go as it pleases carried away by the waves.  Do you think that you would arrive to destination?  Heck no, you might say!  You would be right.

You wouldn’t even dare thinking or even hoping that you would make it to your destination without “navigating” your boat.  You know better than that, don’t you?

Interestingly, most people think that they will get to destination with their lives by letting their thoughts running completely lose without any control.  This is just impossible.

When you don’t control your thoughts and you are not in a place you want to be in your life, your thoughts are bound to be negative most of the time or at least a lot of the times.  That’s just the way it is for most of us.

Thoughts are things.  Thoughts create vibrations (energy) which vibrations attract situations, circumstances and events in your life.  Negative thoughts create negative vibrations which attract negative results.  Not what you want, right?

Get into a 21 day habit routine of watching your thoughts.  There are many ways you can do that and here are four of them that will help you to do so.

2- Get Into the Habit of Using EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) for 5 to 10 minutes a Day

You would be amazed at what five to 10 minutes of EFT practice a day will do for you.  I know that some people are still very unfamiliar with EFT, but if it’s your case, read about what people who have been using it are saying about it.  EFT works.

Everything is energy and EFT works on our energy.  EFT helps our mind and body get rid of the bad energy while using our good energy.  You can use EFT for just about anything under the sun.  You can use EFT to get into a good habit and you can use it to get into the habit of controlling your thoughts.

If you would like to become more familiar with EFT, here is a template technique on how to use it.  You can customize such template to your own circumstances.

3- Get Into the Habit of Writing What you Want

Writing down something is very powerful and most people are not aware of that.  I mean, really, how many people do you know are writing down everything they want?  Probably very few if any, unless there are in touch with personal development methods.

Write everything you want down with as many details as you can.  I mean everything.  For example, I read a very interesting post from a blogger friend who said she wrote about her perfect dog.  She wrote down all the qualities she wanted her dog to have, and guess what?   She found that dog.

Coincidences?  That’s what people who don’t know about the law of attraction would be calling it.  However, if you are reading this post, I know, you know better.

4- Get Into the Habit of Visualizing What you Want

I am sure that you know by now that visualizing what you want can greatly improve and accelerate the physical form of it.  Visualization will actually help you control your thoughts and emotions.

When you have negative thoughts, notice what you see and how you feel!  You have very dark images going on in your head and usually you feel very bad about it too.  Isn’t that so?  Of course it is.  Well, the good news is that it works very well the other way around as well.

Visualize your goals, your dreams, everything you want, and feel it.  Really feel as if you already had it using you five senses.  Do this for 10 minutes every single day.  If you want, do it for 5 minutes in the morning when you wake up and 5 minutes at night before going to bed.

Do it for 21 days until it becomes a habit.  Slowly, but surely, you will realize that your positive visualizations will come more and more easily and replace your negative ones.

5- Get Into the Habit of Focusing Only on What you Want

You need to get into the habit of focusing more on what you want and less on what you don’t want. If you want the law of attraction to work FOR you instead of AGAINST you, you MUST.

The fundamental principal of the law of attraction is that you attract what you focus on.  It doesn’t make any kind of a difference if you are focusing on what you do want or what you don’t want.  Whatever you are focusing on the most is what you will get as a result.

And it wouldn’t change anything if you said, but it’s hard to believe that you’re rich if you’re broke, or it’s hard to believe that you are skinny if you’re fat, or believe that you are healthy if you’re sick or believe that you are driving this beautiful new car when you are driving this old junk.

I am sorry to tell you that the law of attraction doesn’t understand these types of excuses.  The goal here is to go beyond what you do have in your physical world and focus as much as you can on what you want to have or be.

Play, pretend, have fun!  Do whatever it takes to focus on your goals and dreams.  You future depends on it.  What you focused on yesterday is your reality today, what you will start focusing on today will be your reality tomorrow.

Follow these five law of attraction success driven habits for 21 days and you will change your life – your life will start rolling.  Once they have become habits you will keep on going and see positive results in your life.  Your future depends on it.

What are you thoughts on the subject?  Please, express yourself below in the comment section!

This is all well and good, but have you checked what negative beliefs might still be trapped inside of you that would prevent you to attain such success?

Maybe you feel that you have no negative belief that would prevent you from being successful and wealthy, because you’ve learned about the subconscious mind, the law of attraction and even about beliefs themselves.  However, if you are like most people on the planet you have had beliefs and maybe still believe that poverty is virtuous while wealth is wicked.

Why do Most People Believe that Poverty is Virtuous?

Have you ever asked yourself why do most people believe that poverty is virtuous?  A worldwide spread reason is religion which has done a very good job at persuading people that it’s impossible to be rich and virtuous at the same time.

We are told, brainwashed everyday that spirituality doesn’t go well with money, but if you are poor, on the other hand, you have plenty of room for spiritual stuff and what is more, God might love you more for it, because you will have less thoughts about money and more thought about God.

If you are a religious person or if you have been attending any church in the past or present, you know that what I am saying is true.  I’ve heard that myself on a weekly basis for over 10 years when I was attending my church.  I heard it so much, I started to truly believing it; it became one of my beliefs.

Once a belief is strong enough it goes a step further, it becomes your subconscious belief.  When it reaches there it starts affecting your life.

When your subconscious belief is that poverty is virtuous and wealth is wicked, you will have a very hard time to ever becoming rich or even financially comfortable.  Your subconscious belief will make sure that you stay broke.  I can assure you of that!

Why are we Taught that Poverty is Virtuous?

There is no limit to how many lies we are told in our society.  Poverty being virtuous is is actually only one of them, but for the sake of this article, let’s focus on this.

1)      We are told that poverty is virtuous, firstly because we come from a misunderstanding of money, thinking that money is the evil thing that we just need to be able survive.  The less we have to deal with the evil thing, the better we will be.

2)      We are told that poverty is virtuous because it is easier to control poor people, than it is to control rich people.  A lot of the governments and religions of this world are about control.  Therefore, teaching the masses that poverty is virtuous has a lot to do with control.

Wherever you may travel in the world and whatever society you might study you will find that these are the two main reasons why we as “people”, “society” are taught that poverty is virtuous.

How Can you Find the Truth Within Yourself and Release the Lies Away?

As I mentioned above, I was myself a huge victim of such lie, I believed it and I even preached it to others.  I had totally been convinced that poverty was virtuous.  So, how did I get to change my mind and see things completely differently?

As humans, we have vibrations within us that are constantly trying to connect with our inner being. Those vibrations are “energy”.  It’s what some people call that little voice inside that is trying to tell us something.

Those vibrations are telling us when we are not in alignment with the laws of the universe.  They are telling us when we are going against the grain of the natural laws of the universe, so to speak.  The way it translates is that you start feeling unhappy, sad, and even depressed.  This is your vibrations/energy trying to tell you something.

When you are literally brainwashed into believing that being poor is good and “normal”, but your vibrations, your higher-self, is telling your different, it creates a “conflict”.  This vibration conflict with the lie you are told creates unhappiness, sadness and depression.

At this point we are miserable, but we don’t know why.  Unfortunately, most people who are at that point don’t have the right people around to help them to understand what’s wrong.  Most likely at that moment, people around you will have the exact same false beliefs you have.  This is why it’s usually the time you are told to take some prescription medicine.  I should know, I have been there and done that!

When do you Know that you are Ready for a Change of Belief?

You know that you are ready for a change of beliefs when that voice starts becoming so strong that you start asking yourself some questions.

We have a marvelous brain, and no matter how much we may be brain-washed with a false belief, we can also “react” to such lie and ask ourselves some fundamental questions.  Is this so?  Where does it come from? What is the basis of such belief?  If  it’s true, why am I feeling this way? Is what I see around me proving this belief true or false?

I can assure you that if you would start asking questions like these about each of the deep, dark, false belief you may have, would start receiving the answers to help you get rid of them.

Because I listened to that voice inside which was becoming louder and louder, I started asking myself those questions and more.  Then, I started answering them. The answers were clear and lifted me up from all my sadness and depression in a very short time.  It truly was a turning point for me.

I had released the negative energy that my false and negative beliefs about money were creating.  As I started to change my beliefs, I created a positive energy which left no room for negative feelings such as sadness, unhappiness or depression.

Put your Beliefs about Money to the Test

As this New Year begins, test your beliefs about money. Do not just believe them blindly.  Search for any beliefs that would be in opposition with your new goals of success.  Is there still beliefs in you that poverty is virtuous?

Many of such beliefs will be found deep down in your subconscious mind, but once you get there, you can also remove and replace them with positive, healthy beliefs.

What are you thoughts on the subject?  Please, express yourself below in the comment section!

The law of attraction always works, it is not even something that you have to activate in any way, shape or form.  Whether you are aware of it or not the law of attraction has worked for you all throughout your life because it’s one of the LAWS of our universe, just like the law of gravity for example.

You would never say, well, this person jumped out of the window and fell to the ground because they believed in the law of gravity, but since I don’t, I can just jump through that window and I won‘t fall to the ground.  You would never say something like this, because you know that you absolutely cannot go against a law of the universe.

Yet, some people do believe that some others can attract good things to them, somehow, but they can’t.  What they don’t know or realize is that everything that’s around them, they have attracted using the law of attraction.  They just didn’t attracted what they want!

You might have attracted a bunch of stuff you don’t want in your life.  So, how do you start attracting what you do want versus what you don’t?

Understanding How the Law of Attraction Works

We create every second of the day.  We create with a combination of thoughts, emotions and energy that we send out.

For most people this process is more on auto-pilot than it is by choice.  Many people are even completely oblivious of the fact that they actually can STOP any negative thought at any moment, and REPLACE it with a positive one.

Instead, they feel stuck, unhappy, depressed and even desperate in some cases.  They feel that they have no choice and no way out.

Sometimes they even feel that they have to do certain things which actually make them feel miserable, just because they have been told to do so.  Usually, situations like these would make an individual very unhappy or even totally depressed.

If this is your situation, you may feel miserable all the time and wondering why.

What unhappiness is trying to tell you is that you are not in alignment with what you were created for, and the thing is that if you don’t do something about it, it won’t get any better.  All you could ever do is get some medication to treat the symptoms; however, you will always suffer because the real cause of the problem will never be cured with any prescription medication of any kind.

My True Life Example Story

A few years ago, even though it seemed that I should have been happy because I was doing what I was “supposed” to do, had a very good health and had some people that I loved and loved me in my life; I was really unhappy and depressed most of the time.  It seemed that there was always something missing in my life, always something that I couldn’t have or be.

On top of this. I felt guilty because I was told that I was supposed to be happy; that I had every reason to be happy, but just wasn’t.  I really thought for a long time that something was very wrong with me.  May be I was just being a brat; never satisfied with what I had.  This situation lasted 10 years of my life.

Being in Alignment with what you Want

The truth is that my mind and body were telling me that I wasn’t in alignment with my true-self. I was doing what I was “told” to do, but my subconscious mind, the universe, were telling me differently.

As long as I was refusing to listen, either willingly or because of ignorance, as it was the case, I was going to feel miserable and no convincing from others could have changed that.

When you put your hand too close to a flame your senses let you know that if you touch the flame you will get burn, therefore, your reaction in such case is to listen to the warning feedbacks and not go so close to the flame to the point of getting burned.

When our inner voice or what we call our “heart” which is actually our subconscious mind is telling us that we are not in alignment with our higher self we tend to NOT react the same way we do with fire.  We ignore the signals and we dive even deeper in what makes us feel unhappy.

Only when it starts “burning” we start feeling sad to the point of depression and we are wondering why.

How do you Know if you are in Alignment with what you Want or Not

The reason why I am where I am now in my life today after 10 years of wondering why, is because, after a while I started asking myself some questions.  If I am doing what I am supposed to do and supposed to feel so happy about it, why is it that I am not?

You might be able to even lie to yourself for a while, but your emotions don’t lie.  You can’t pretend to feel good about something if you don’t.

I started asking myself some serious questions and those questions led me to finally questioned… what if?  What if all the things that I had been told by other people were just not so? What if something was trying to tell me something?

This is when I started listening more to my emotions and feelings and less to other people.

Your emotion is a perfect measuring tape that will let you know if you are in alignment with what you really want in life.  We are making mistakes when we refuse to listen to our emotion which is trying to tell us something.

From the moment I turned the switch on and decided to listen to what my emotions, my “heart” was telling me I started to attract the right people in my life and this is how my introduction to the law of attraction and life coaching started.

This was a huge turning point in my life and the reason I was able to create this blog and work as a life coach.  I can now help people tune up with their emotion and become AWARE of their alignment or the lack of it with what they want to be and have.

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People all over the world are looking to gain MORE self confidence but, in order to gain such confidence you need to step back just for a moment and make sure that you really understand what “confidence” is.

We All Start With Bundle of Self Confidence

Have you noticed how little children have plenty of confidence?  They are not scared of anything really, unless they are taught to.  You might say, well, they are not scared because they don’t know any better.  They are “ignorant” so to speak, due to their young age.

Even though this is true, in part, the other very obvious and overwhelming reason why little children have no fear and are full of self-confidence is because they subconscious mind has not been “taught” to fear yet.

This is something that we unfortunately learn quickly enough because of the way we are being raised, because of our own negative experiences and other circumstances we might run into throughout our life.

Self Confidence or the Lack of it is 99.9% Taught

For me to be able to tell you a true story that will illustrate how lack of self confidence is being taught and not something we are born with, I do not have to think very much.  The story of my own mother is a great one.

My mother has always been an extremely talented woman who could use both her head and her hands to do just about anything she put her mind to.  She was the kind of person who should have had all the self confidence in the world and end up being extremely successful in whatever trade she might have chosen.

My mother could read fluently at the age of 5, she was a A+ student all of her schooling life, she spoke 3 languages, French, Spanish and Italian fluently and she was a talented tailor and cloth designer without having been to any school for it.  Those were her early talents, she developed even more over the years.

However, what she didn’t have were parents who encouraged self confidence and, therefore, she never learned how to gain such valuable self confidence.

On the contrary, she subconsciously learned over time NOT to be self confident and her whole life she paid a dear price for such lack of confidence never to be replaced by any talent and ability she might have had.

In other words, your self confidence or the lack of it will be a tremendous factor in your success in life, or the lack of it.  It can make  you or brake you.

Unfortunately, most of us have stories that led us to develop some type of lack of self confidence.  Such lack of confidence is now very deeply embedded in our subconscious mind. 

It was taught to us verbally, by actions or by experience; it doesn’t really matter, the result is the same – we have a lack of self confidence.  However, such limiting state can be overcome by digging into your subconscious.

If you are not clear about what the subconscious mind is, I encourage you to read about it here, once you’ve finished this article.

Is Self Confidence Planted In Your Subconscious mind? 

The problem with our subconscious mind is that it doesn’t learn, it simply records words and experiences and, if it has recorded enough data that would translate into lack of self confidence, chances are that such lack of confidence will stay with you for the rest of your life unless, you do something about it.

That something has to affect your subconscious mind in order to be transformed.

One of the best ways I ever heard the subconscious mind explained in simple words is that it can be compared to a tape recorder.  A tape recorder doesn’t think, judge, analyze or rationalize – all it does is tape whatever sound is there – such as voices, background noises and whatever you might or might not want to be recorded will be on that tape.

Our subconscious mind works just like that!  It “tapes” it all, the good the bad and the indifferent.  And it will stay there unless your tape something else on top of it.

Self confidence or the lack of it has been planted (recorded) in our subconscious mind when we were just a small child.

How Can You Program Self Confidence in Your Subconscious Mind?

There are several tools you can use to change the programming of your subconscious mind that translates in the lack of self confidence.  Once you do you will gain more self confidence and improve your personal and professional life.  Let’s see what they are.

1)      Repetition – Affirmation – Self Talk

To repeat an affirmation over and over will eventually influence your subconscious mind when you are starting to believe such affirmation.  However, don’t be fooled, it will NOT work just by mere repetition alone if you don’t start believing it.

The best way to start believing your positive affirmations also called “self talk” is by putting some emotion into it.  The subconscious mind learns by emotion better than any other ways.

2)      Self help audio meditation and hypnosis

Audio meditation and audio hypnosis session are two very effective ways to induce your subconscious mind into “recording” something new.

The reason for this is what is called the Critical Factor which serves as a guardian between our conscious and subconscious minds.

The critical factor may prevent new ideas to pass from the conscious to the subconscious, however, it is more dormant under meditation and hypnosis and, therefore, the subconscious is more accessible to such new ideas.

When I say hypnosis, I am talking about up-building hypnosis, not unconscious hypnosis as you might have seen on TV.

3)      Coaching

If affirmations (self talk) alone is not enough or doesn’t work for you, or if you don’t have the necessary self discipline to use audio meditation and hypnosis material, coaching might be what you need to transform your subconscious beliefs that led you to have lack of self confidence.

A life coach can help you pin point exactly the subconscious beliefs that need to be replaced and what will best trigger your issues in order to be able to gain self confidence.

4)      Vision boards

Vision boards are the visual versions of self talks.  By putting images of what you want to have or want to become in front of you every day, you are passing on messages to your subconscious mind that will eventually influence it, depending on how much and how often you look at such images.

Nowadays, there are some great online vision boards such as Dream Manifesto Wizard and The Attractor Genie for example, which are intelligent vision boards that can maximize your results.

Whichever type of help might be BEST for you to help you improve and gain self confidence doesn’t matter. We are all different and can benefit from several options we can choose from.

Such tools can and will help you to gain more self confidence if you put your mind to it and, that’s all worth it.

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Do you feel confused about “hypnosis”?  Do you feel that it’s a weird power that only some people have?  Do you think that being “hypnotized” means that you would be losing your consciousness?  Have you ever thought that hypnosis could help you attain your goals in life or fix a problem you may have?

So many questions and more need to be answered.

Many people are still very confused about what hypnosis really is and they have no idea that it could help them in anyway.  However, don’t worry; by the end of this article you should not only be very clear about what hypnosis REALLY is but, also know how it can help you achieve your personal and professional goals in life.

What Hypnosis Really is and What it is NOT?

The main reason why there is so much confusion about what hypnosis it’s due to the fact that we all have seen those images on TV where a person is being hypnotized by another person who seems to take total control of their mind and body.

In some cases, the individual under “hypnosis” has no recollection whatsoever of what happened during the time he or she was hypnotized and if the person doing the hypnosis were to drop dead it seems that the individual would never be able to wake up.

With such erroneous image of hypnosis, no wonder many people are afraid of it!

Real hypnosis is NOT that!  As a matter of fact, I wouldn’t want to ever have someone take over my brain and body and make me do what THEY want me to do.  Such type of surrender of oneself could even be dangerous if you ask me.

Thankfully, this is not the type of hypnosis that we are talking about.

In real hypnosis ALL suggestions are FILTERED by the conscious mind first before they are absorbed by the subconscious mind.  In other words it’s completely opposite of what you’ve seen when you’ve watched someone  on TV lose the control of what they are saying and what they are doing and not even remembering any of it when they awake.

So, what type of hypnosis are we talking about here?

What is the True Definition of Hypnosis?

The true definition of hypnosis is a heightened state of suggestibility.  The difference is that you keep complete control of your mind and body while you are in a “hypnotic state” which is between the sleeping and waking state – a state where your subconscious mind can be reached much better and easier – because it’s not being hindered by what is called the “critical factor” which prevents conscious new ideas and desires to penetrate the subconscious mind as a protection mechanism.

What is a “Heightened” State of Suggestibility?

A heightened state of suggestibility is a “high ability to receive suggestions and being able to be able to respond better to them”.

The state when we are the most highly responsive to suggestions is under hypnosis, when we are capable to received influencing suggestions at the most efficient state of mind.   However, we can be influenced (hypnotized) at any time.

Let me explain…

You are being hypnotized when you are reading a book.  You are being hypnotized when you are watching a movie.  You are hypnotized when you are following someone else’s instructions or directions.  We are hypnotized all the time!

A very good example of hypnotic suggestions areTV commercials.  Even though you may “think” that you are not paying attention to those commercials on TV, you are.  We all have responded at one time or another to such hypnotic suggestions such as TV commercials.  Have you ever bought a product you’ve seen on TV?  I am sure you have.  We all have.

The makers of such messages are totally aware of such hypnotic suggestions.  If they weren’t, they wouldn’t spend thousands to millions of dollars creating such messages.  Would they?

When we follow religious rituals without really understanding what they are and where they come from but, because we were TOLD to do so, we are being hypnotized.

Being Hypnotized by Choice

Knowing that we are being hypnotized in so many ways that we may or may not even want and which are not for our best interest, why not make a CONSCIOUS choice of being hypnotized for our own good?

Is there such thing? Yes, there is

Victoria Gallagher, who is a certified hypnotist who created a company named hyptalk.com is the author countless audio hypnosis sessions that you can purchase online and download directly to your Mp3.

Such hypnotic messages, unlike the ones mentioned above are suggestions that can change your life for the better.  Such hypnotic sessions don’t put you in an unknown world of loss of consciousness.  You are hypnotized but, ALWAYS fully conscious and aware.

Do you want to stop smoking? Do you want to increase your customers flow?  Do you want to find your soul mate?   Do you want to improve your health?

There are so many things that you can improve with hypnosis I invite you to see it for yourself right here!

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On top of this, if you add the fact that some religious beliefs are teaching you that listening to your heart is a bad thing to do, because your heart “is bad”, no wonder that so few people are ever listening to their heart.

Are you one of such people?

Do you feel you don’t have the time to listen to your heart?

What should you do if you feel that you don’t have enough time to listen to your heart (your inside voice)?  Your inside voice is the ONLY communication that your higher-self is using to communicate with you.  The less you listen to that voice the more out of alignment with your higher self you will be and the more chaotic your life will be.

Therefore, if you feel that your life is already so busy that you can’t take some time to listen to your heart, you will find yourself having even less and less time.  Try to dedicate at least 15-20 minutes a day to quiet down, meditate and learn how to listen to your inner voice.  Listening to your heart is what will guide you to better things in your life.

Why do some religions teach you not to listen to your heart?

The answer to this question is actually pretty easy.  As a matter of fact, this subject is very close to me since I have been one of such people who have been taught for a whole decade not to listen to my heart by religion.

Religions in general tend to like to control the mind of their subjects so they can keep on being followers instead of leaders.  When someone stops being a follower he or she often becomes a leader and that often goes against what religions want you to be.  They want you to follow quietly and obey without asking too many questions.

Believe me, I know.  I have been there and done that.  The only problem with this is that if you do not listen to your heart and just try to do what “you’re supposed” to be doing and believing, you’ll turn out to be miserable.  As a matter of fact, that is the perfect recipe for depression.

I was in a deep depression for 10 years because of this very reason.  As soon as I stopped believing what I was supposed to do and start listening to my heart – my inner voice, my depression just ceased.  I didn’t need to take any kind of drugs for it as some well intentioned people had suggested to me.

What will start to happen to you when you start listening to your voice?

When you start listening to your heart incredible transformations will start happening to your life.

• You are going to feel much more peaceful, more grounded and more stable
• You are going to trust yourself better, have more self confidence
• You will be able to raise your vibration, your intuition will be much more acute

When I was restraining myself from listening to my heart, because I was told that it was not a good thing to do, I was a very “needy” person.  I needed the approval of others all the time.  I needed people to like me and love me or I would become very depressed if I felt that it was not the case.  I had a very low self confidence level.  I felt very little all the time.  I was a mess.

This is what you get when you “force” yourself to not listen to your heart!

When you start listening to your heart, you start feeling the wisdom from your higher self.  This is what some refer to as the “wisdom above”.  When you are listening to your heart you are listening to your inner guidance or inner compass that is always guiding you in the right direction.  Your higher self NEVER makes mistakes.

When you start listening to your heart is when you are going to start noticing that everything finally comes into place.

Increase your communication with the universe (your heart-your inner voice)

Listening to your heart means communicating better with the universe.  The universe always “hears” what’s in your heart but, it is better responding to you if your sincerity and wisdom is acknowledging your inner voice and listen to it.  If you take the time to listen to your heart the universe will give you what your heart desires as long as it’s in harmony with the good of everyone involved.

I always wanted to be a writer and a coach but, being taught for over 10 years that I shouldn’t listen to my heart prevented me from advancing in this area.  Quite the opposite, actually; I wasn’t doing what I really deep down wanted to do, therefore, I was very unhappy and I didn’t understand why.

I finally came to the understanding that the reason why I was so unhappy was because I was trying very hard NOT to listen to my heart.

Start listening to your heart (your thoughts), because they are very strong vibrations that the universe always responds to.  Your thoughts are real and carry energy.  This is the energy of “thoughts” you are bringing into your life when you are in alignment with your true desire.  Listen to your heart and your life will change for the best.

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Is success really easy to attain or is it not?

Success is not hard, but it might require for you to have a strong will and desire and then to practice persistence until you reach your goal.

When you see a successful lawyer, you might forget the years of law schools that he has behind him and how hard he had to study to pass the bar exam.  Then he  had to build a reputation and a clientele.

When you see a successful business man you don’t know how many failures he might have behind him.  Most likely a handful of them at least, before he finally made it.

When you see a successful artist you don’t know how many years he had to struggle before breaking through and be seen in the lime lights.

The point is that success while simple is not necessarily easy in coming in most cases.  However, while it may not be easy at first, it will become easier over time.

Success will become clearer to you when you learn how to shape your subconscious mind by studying the law of attraction and the laws of success.

Before I started studying my own thought process, I realized that negative thinking was a big in issue in my life.  I grew up without a father who died in a car accident when I was 5 and from then on I’ve seen my mother getting very anxious about everything.  This, of course had affected my mind and my thought process.  As a matter of fact it had affected my subconscious mind.

This thought process of mine, was making success impossible for me.  I had a negative belief about myself.  If I had been able to control my thoughts back then, the same way I do now, my achievement level would have been much higher at every level of my life.

What is the most important common denominator of successful people?

After 4 years of studying behaviors with both successful and unsuccessful individuals I would say that the most common denominator of successful people is their “belief”.

I already wrote an article recently about beliefs and the importance that what you believe has in your life, so I am not going to go into the details here, but let me just say this; what you believe about yourself and what you can or cannot accomplish can make a tremendous difference in your success or the lack of it.

If you look around you will realize that unsuccessful people have a tremendous lack of belief in themselves and everything they do.  I could give you a long list of examples of people that I personally know who are affected by this.  I am sure you could too!

On the other hand,  successful people have a strong belief in themselves and everything they do.  They do not let fear or doubt hinder they actions.  They make decisions and act on them.  When something fail they do not take it personally.  They take failures as experience and keep moving forward until they reach success.  Thomas Edison is a famous example of that.

It’s true that might be a far cry from “easy”; therefore,  if you think that success is not “easy” and you would be right in a way, but this doesn’t mean that you can’t be successful, because in the end, success has everything to do with YOU, not with the fact that it’s easy or not.

What are the qualities you need to develop in order to be successful?

Over the years I’ve discovered that a very important quality one needs to have to reach any kind of lasting success is peace of mine.  True piece of mind might be one of the hardest qualities to attain for many people.

This is why even people who have achieved success are sometimes not able to keep it, because they have no peace of mind and are spoiling their success with substance abuse, depression, and overall unhappiness.  They get back to a state of negative results leading from one failure to the next.

Peace of mind is not hard to attain, but it requires discipline and persistence.  A very good way to acquire more peace of mind is meditation.  You do not need to be an expert at meditation nowadays to be able to benefit from it.  There are meditation CDs that you can listen to everyday that will help you find peace of mind after the first session.

Such meditation materials are design to help you rest your mind and body without going thought the months or even years of practicing traditional meditation before you’d get any kind of positive results.

Along with meditation, you should develop your mind by reading personal development books that will educate you in this regard and help you to direct your mind in the right direction toward success.

With such practice, you will realize that success is really easy to attain, after all.