Do you know where you are going? Do you have a purpose in life? Are you facing the right direction? If your answer to those questions is no, I would advise you to do your very best to start finding it out. Unless you’re just fine the way you are. If you feel that something is missing, however, then you may want to take advantage of the information on this post.
How many times I wished I had a real goal in life when I was younger. This is one of the main reasons I became motivated to teach others to do just that, so they don’t have to wake up one day, later in life, still not knowing what is it that they are supposed to do with their life.
Is Just Living Enough?
It’s not enough to put a tool in someone’s hand. If you don’t know what that tool is for or how to use it, it will be useless to you. As motivational speaker and writer, Mohamed Tohami said, it’s not enough to walk in a straight line and follow the crowd. The question is, “are you facing the right direction”? Because if you don’t, it doesn’t matter what type of opportunities you will come across in your life, you most likely will blow them all. I wasted years of my life because I had no sense of direction what so ever. So, in this post we are going to analyze why a lot of people are seriously lacking direction and what you can do to fix it if it’s your case.
Why do Most People Lack Direction and Purpose?
The main reason why many people lack direction it’s because they were never taught, that’s as simple as that. Either they were never given the tools or they didn’t know how to use them.
Let me give you an illustration to help you understand my point here. What is the difference between someone growing up speaking a language and someone learning such language in school in a foreign country? It’s the manner it’s taught. When you grow up learning a language in its native country, you learn everything about it. You learn the proper language, the slang, the expressions, the figurative speech, and even the “bad” words. This is what really makes a whole language. If you can speak and understand it all, that makes you fluent in such language. If you don’t, well that makes you what people like to put on their resume, “intermediate”. What makes us intermediate in a language is what we learn in school where we don’t learn slang, figurative speech, bad words or many expressions. The result is that if you find yourself among natives of that language you won’t understand much. Your intermediate level will not be enough to do so.
This is exactly what happens to a lot of us with learning about our direction in life. We are at an “intermediate” level, because we don’t hang out with the experts. We’ve learned only in school and from our not so well informed parents, tutors or teachers. This is the story of most of us. Because we grew up knowing very little about having or developing a purpose in life, we are just “average”, and this means that you need help to find our purpose.
Spend Time with People who are Already There
You need to spend some time with people who are fluent in personal development and higher purpose to become fluent yourself.
If the term life purpose or “your purpose” was never even used and much less understood when you grew up, you probably were taught to just follow the crowds, go to school, get a job, get married, have children, etc. You know the drill. If you parents didn’t know about having a specific purpose in life, they most likely didn’t know where you could learn such thing either. They might have told you to walk in a straight line, but they never told you to check if you were facing the right direction.
In other words, for us to be able to know that early on in life, it has to be shown to us. Some people call this programming. Like a computer can’t do what it has not been programmed to do. as children we are literally programmed by those who care for us and raise us. That’s why as children we can easily be brought up or brought down.
What we’ve been programmed with has a lot to do with what our parents were programmed with by their own parents, and so forth and so on. You can’t teach someone, something you don’t know. If no one around you ever had a “purpose” in life or taught you how to find it, most likely you didn’t have one. This is why most people out there don’t have a purpose in life.
Finding your Direction and Purpose in Life
Feelings of emptiness is a good thing. Why I am saying that feeling empty is a good thing? Because it tells you that something is missing and forces you to seek for it.
If you don’t have a direction or a purpose, but somehow don’t even feel that something is missing, you will never go look for it. And most likely, you won’t find what you’re not looking for.
You will spend a life time in that paralyzing hot water without ever attempting to jump out. I know many people who have lived their whole life just like that.
So, use that feeling of emptiness, that hunger for something better to find what your purpose is. If you want to activate your search you can use mediation and self improvement tools.
Another thing you should do is read a lot of personal development materials. The most successful people l know read at least ten pages of personal development materials a day. Very soon I am going to start posting a personal development video (made by me) every week, so you will have your written and visual doze of personal development each and every week, right here on this blog.