You Want Nothing - Your Ego Wants It All

You probably think you want more money, a bigger house, a new car or a soul mate and so on?

Well, I’m here to tell you:

You don’t.

You actually don’t want anything else than what you have right now. You don’t want the present moment to be different from what it is.

What wants all the stuff is not you. It’s your ego.

So why does your ego want it?

Because your ego believes that happiness comes from outside of you. From things and from achievements.

“If I only had (insert stereotypical object of desire here) I’d be happy.”

But the truth is neither you nor your ego would.  Not for long anyhow.

Your ego would probably gloat in the satisfaction of acquiring what it thought it wanted for little while in some sort of short lived rush but relatively quickly it would need another ego-fix to remain satisfied.

Didn’t you ever want something and then get it?

If so did your happiness and contentment last?

My answer to that last question has always been a definite no. I’ve gotten what “I” really wanted countless times but still it didn’t take long until I was right back where I was before I got it. Wanting more of what I didn’t have.

(If you have a hard time understanding the difference between the ego and the real you I suggest you read “A New Earth” by Eckhart Tolle where these things are explained further.)

Well then are things and experiences negative?

Not at all.

And it certainly doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy any of these things when you “have” them or when they are present in your life.

The important thing is to not confuse your happiness with getting certain things or on anything specific outside yourself happening in a certain way.

What happens when you think you need something outside yourself to be happy you see the distance between yourself and your goal and the further away from the goal you are and the more difficult it seems to reach that goal the more anxiety, stress and resistance you build up inside your body.

We all know that stress has a lot of different unwanted effects on our body and our mind so my advice to anyone who experiences this discomfort would be:

1. Realize it’s not you but your ego that wants things to be different because it believes it would be happy if they were.

2. Release the stress in your mind and body through meditation, EFT or why not try the technique I’ve found works the best.

If you like this article you can find more like it written by Emanuel Kingson at the A Changing Man Blog.

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